Community Guidelines
1. Declarations are not invitations to negotiate
When someone marks a dimension off the table, or prefer to discuss privately, that is an answer — not an opening position. Asking someone to justify a limit, wearing them down, or treating “not right now” as “try again harder” is harassment, and it is the fastest way to lose your account here.
2. Be honest about who you are
- Recent photos of yourself. No one else's, no AI-generated faces.
- Your real age, your real relationship structure, your real availability.
- If you have a partner, do not hide it. If your partner does not know you are here, you are not practising ethical non-monogamy — you are cheating, and this is the wrong app.
3. Couples and polycules
If you are dating as a unit, say so up front. Do not use one member's profile to source people for another. A single person is not an accessory to your relationship — they get the same say, the same information, and the same right to leave that you do. Every member of a joint profile must have agreed to be there, and any member can withdraw at any time, alone.
4. Sexual content
Do not send sexual images or explicit messages to anyone who has not clearly consented to receive them. Unsolicited explicit images are a removable offence on first report. Sharing anyone's intimate images without their consent is grounds for immediate permanent removal and, where applicable, referral to law enforcement.
5. Health, disability, and recovery
Many people here are living with chronic illness, chronic pain, disability, or recovery. What someone shares about their body is context they chose to give you, not a diagnosis to interrogate, a problem to solve, or a detail to repeat to anyone else. Fetishising someone's illness or disability is harassment.
6. Never allowed
- Anyone under 18, or any sexual content involving minors — reported to NCMEC without exception
- Threats, stalking, intimidation, or doxxing
- Hate speech targeting race, ethnicity, religion, disability, gender identity, or sexual orientation
- Commercial solicitation, sex work advertising, or compensated arrangements
- Scams, impersonation, or asking members for money
- Sharing private conversations, photos, or someone's relationship status outside the app
7. Reporting and blocking
Report and block are free, unlimited, and never rate-limited or paywalled — that is a permanent commitment, not a beta policy. Blocking is silent and mutual: the blocked person is not told, and neither of you appears to the other anywhere in the app. Reports about physical safety, minor safety, and non-consensual content are routed to the top of the queue automatically.
If you or someone you are talking to is in crisis
Polygram is not a crisis service and cannot provide emergency help. If someone is in immediate danger, contact local emergency services.
- US: call or text 988 (Suicide & Crisis Lifeline) · text HOME to 741741 (Crisis Text Line)
- UK: call 116 123 (Samaritans) · text SHOUT to 85258
- Ireland: 116 123 · EU: 112
- Canada: call or text 988
- International: findahelpline.com
If you are worried about another member, you can also report them under Self-harm risk — that routes to a human, and it is not a punishment for them.
8. What happens when you break these rules
Depending on severity we may remove content, limit an account, suspend it, or remove it permanently. We tell you which rule was broken unless doing so would put someone at risk. You can appeal to appeals@polygram.love and a human will read it. Safety-critical categories act first and review after.